How did you meet? How long have you been together? Have you seen each other in person? These questions are often asked by people once they find out you are in a long distance relationship. These questions can throw you off guard, but they are expected questions, and we must be prepared to answer these questions for anyone who asks them. Most people I talk to, have known me for a while and know Matthew and I's story so questioning the legitimacy of our relationship is a rare occasion. However, recently switching jobs and meeting new people has brought this up, and I have had friends who have run into this problem.
Everyone's long distance relationship is different. You may have known the person for several years, met while visiting another place, or online. Truth is, love is love. But in many online relationships, you must be careful that the person you see in the profile photo, is the person you are in love with. When people ask about the legitimacy of your relationship, if there is any hesitation, it may be time to really think about your relationship and whether or not you can stand up to someone and tell them you love that person. The best answer you can give someone when asking if your long distance relationship is legitimate, is being able to explain to them how you met that person, why you love that person, and how long you have known the person.
When meeting someone for the first time, and when my relationship comes up, which is usually in the beginning, their first reaction is "how do you know someone from Canada? Can't you find someone closer?". The answer I give them is really quite simple, and when you can tell the person just wants to know your business, the shorter the answer, the better. In my case, I always say "His name is Matthew, we met in seventh grade, and I love him because of the trials we have faced together that allowed us to grow together as a couple". All couples have their stories, and how you answer this cringing question of whether or not your relationship is legitimate is very important. Avoiding this question makes the situation worse.
What is important to remember, is to not let anyone into your relationship who should not be there. You don't have to answer questions if you don't want, but show the person who asks, that you are in love. It's a good thing to brag about your relationship. Another issue that arises is that people often say "you just can't get someone here" or "you aren't ready for a real relationship". The fact is that a long distance relationship is a real relationship, and no one can tell you different. You can't help who you fall in love with. So whether they are five miles away or 5,000 miles away, it is a relationship. So stand up for your relationship, and if you are comfortable, tell your story! Thanks again for everyone who reads my blogs! I am always here to answer relationship questions, so feel free to email me at hannahplyons@gmail.com. Like these blogs? Check out my new blog, Calgary's Best wedding venues!
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